Learn How To Say NO
Are you embarrassed to say “no” when someone asks something of you? Do you always try to be kind to everyone and although you are harming yourself? – You are not alone. The reason you don’t want to say “no” to anyone is that you want to help to others, don’t want to be cheeky and rude, you want to be on good terms with everyone, to avoid conflict or you may fear that if you don’t help to someone, no one will be with you, to you when you’ll need support. Trust me nothing is so black and white. Ultimately, the consequences of your refusal will depend on the way you say “no” and not the fact that you refused someone. That fear is in your head, but in reality people will understand if you know how to express on the right way. Just say no when you think you should! If you are unsure how to proceed, choose one of the following techniques that best suits your situation:
How To Say “No” Nicely
- No time
“I have no time to devote to what you’re asking me, because I have other priorities right now, such as”… If you are really busy and do not have time to do what is required from you, with this sentence the person will realize that your schedule is full and will have to pull.
- Not the right time
It’s not the right time now for it, I’m busy with something. Can we talk the other day? ” Sometimes you aren’t able to run around helping to everyone because you have another bit of work to finish. With this technique,you’ll put on pause what was asked from you and you’ll take another moment to do it, when you choose to you.
“I would really like to but …” Use this sentence when you like the idea, but because of different needs and priorities don’t want to accept. This is a cultural way to decline and there is nothing wrong with that…
- Think about
“Let me think about it, I’ll answer you later.” If you are in a situation where someone suggests something that sounds great, but do not want to run out to say “yes” before you think, use this technique. If a person is sincere about the proposal, he/she will be willing to wait while you decide.
- Have in mind
“It doesn’t match with my current needs, but I will have in mind for the future.” If someone wants you to agree to something that totally suits your needs, then clearly tell it. Otherwise, the discussion may take longer than you would like. By telling the person that you’ll have the idea for the future, you give a signal that you’re open to other situations.
- The real person
“I don’t think that I am the real person who can help you. Why don’t you ask …?” If you have no way to help someone, give him the knowledge that he was addressed to the wrong person. If you know someone who could help him, point at that person.
- No I can’t
“No, I can’t.” This is the easiest and most direct way to say “no.” There are many barriers in our minds that prevent us from rejecting, but they are not real. Don’t even think too much to reject, just do it! You will be surprised from the reaction from the opposite side, it won’t be even half bad, than that you have pictured to yourself.
Learn to say “no” to things that don’t suit your needs, and once you do that, you’ll realize how much it was actually easy. That way you’ll get more time for yourself, your work and the things that you are most important.